What Happens When We Finally Trust Ourselves?
I have been thinking a lot about self-trust lately, mostly because I’ve realised how easy it is to believe that we trust ourselves when things are going well.
It is relatively easy to stand behind a decision when the outcome appears to vindicate it; when the relationship works, the opportunity pays off, the risk leads somewhere beautiful, or somebody we respect reassures us that we did the right thing. It becomes much more interesting when it doesn’t...
The Conversations You’re Avoiding With Yourself
Being able to have honest conversations with other people, especially the ones that feel uncomfortable or uncertain or charged in a way you can’t quite predict, asks something much deeper than simply knowing what to say or how to say it well. It asks whether we have been willing to sit in that same level of honesty with ourselves first, without immediately softening what we find, reshaping it into something easier to hold, or moving away from it the moment it begins to ask something real of us.
Your (Almost) End-of-year Love Letter
Yes, it is almost that time of year. As the mornings continue to get colder and the last stubborn leaves fall from the trees, there is a quiet inner-knowing that glows with dulled edges, pulling us closer to the heartstrings we’ve been ignoring, avoiding, or politely postponing.